Mentors and Mothers

I do not think that I am alone when I say that I did not have my best relationship with my mother as a young woman. My 16th-18th years were the most difficult...but looking back they really were not that hard! NOW I know that I was trying to be the woman that she had raised while being raised...it didn't seem to work. I wanted so desperately to prove to her and to myself that I was capable of implementing her lessons in my life and walking on my own two feet....how ever fragile they were.

Am I alone? No - I know that my mother had the same exact experience with her mother. It wasn't until she allowed me to try out my own legs, stumble and fall, leaving the nest to pursue whatever was the order of the day at the time - for me it was college. This was her greatest lesson...that I know that I am soon to one day face with my own daughters...and am facing right now with some of my younger female cohorts that I love so much. Today, I will reach back to my mother's lessons and remember her strength at this very moment.
Ase Ase Ase.

Now - what happened then?....I messed up, found and survived abuse, struggled for and attained success and eventually myself enough to see my mentors and examples around me. I found sisterhood as another "parent" and this loving guidance resulted in my own continued efforts of refinement as a mother, a wife, a business woman, a spiritual woman. I thank GOD for this because I came to find out that it wasn't that I needed to leave my mother, I only needed to see her from the view as a mother/teacher/mentor/wife/business woman/spiritual woman myself to truly understand her value and light.

It was my mentors that welcomed my trembling steps into what I have come to know as my EGBE. When I thought that it was finally time that I could go this alone, it was then that I realized that I was not alone at all...and this loving guidance and example is what returns me back to respecting and understanding my mother. Now I find that the term that I use to use."well you know how Mom is" has become an endearment rather than a warning. Her beauty astounds me and my respect of her grows daily making an example of her to me and my children and those who care to learn as well.

So I woke up this morning, with the wish to tell my daughters - extended and biological - that we are doing the very best we can as mothers.

But you will not be able to realize our and then your own greatness until we let you go.

You may not know this until you find your sisters/mentors outside of our immediate view, who will assist you with finding yourself and your destiny, and because of this, you are not alone.

As mothers we send you out to make it on your own only to return as sisters into an even wiser women's society always remembering your origin and because of this always knowing your destiny.

You CAN fly

and we KNOW it

because we are flying WITH you!